Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Feeling Sorry For Yourself

"No trouble losin' when you got a good excuse. And winning—that can be heavy on your back too, like a monkey. Drop that load too when you got an excuse. All you gotta do is learn to feel sorry for yourself. That's one of the best indoor sports, feelin' sorry for yourself. A sport enjoyed by all—especially the born loser." The Hustler

Do you ever feel sorry for yourself?

Listen, times are tough, it would be understandable to make even more excuses now. (And many of you are.) And it’s actually ok to make excuses for the difficulties in many circumstances.

But there’s always a trade off to those excuses.

Remember this: Feeling sorry for yourself never got anyone anywhere. Maybe just a large dose of depression, that’s about it.

When tough times hit, you can respond in two ways:

  1. Feel sorry for yourself and sit in it.
  2. Or feel bad, then move to action.

We all feel sorry from time to time. But it’s those with character that push past this feeling and become a real winner.

No winner feels sorry for himself (or herself) for very long. The feeling fuels them to greatness.

Can I be flat out real for a second?

If you continue to feel sorry for yourself, your life will continue to suck.

Here’s what you can do to move toward action past these feelings:

  1. Implement a zero tolerance policy in your life and on your team.
  2. Build self esteem. Read, hang out with purposeful people, implement.
  3. Be thankful for what you do have. Seriously, try it.

No one wants to be around you when you have a attitude of self pity—it’s damaging.

Dale Carnegie said, "Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have."

Times are definitely tough. But don’t succumb to short term habits that change the course of your life.

(photo via craig sunter)