They Matter

They Matter

I had the opportunity to sit with one of my heroes recently and hear him speak at a conference. He said, "I have never done anything in my life except through relationships.”

That’s been so true in my life too. Projects, businesses, investments, ideas, lunches, camping trips, family, it’s all been by relationship.

Too often in life, we value the transaction more than relationship. That’s wrong. We have to stop doing that.

I stumbled upon a story recently and it was fascinating to me. One of the top investors in Silicon Valley (near San Jose, California) has a long standing pickup basketball game. It’s invite only. And it’s competitive and intense. They even invite former NBA players to play. So you know it’s fun!

Plato said, “You can learn more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.”

That’s the beauty of this basketball game, the investor gets to see how the fellow players react in the heat of the moment. How do they handle themselves in competition? What kind of person are they?

So they play a game for an hour. You can read more about that story here. That's valuing relationships.

Also, it's not about what you do, but who you know. And you know what? This is also a strong mindset of the wealthy—relationships and connections are paramount. You can see this in how they educate their children. It’s not about a degree or a grade, but rather who is sending their children to this university? This is why many of the elite go to typical types of schools (Ivy League, MBA specialty schools, top law schools, etc).

It’s all about relationships. And that’s why they matter. There are a lot of they's in your life. How do you view them? And how wealthy are you in terms of your relationships?

Relationships require time, trust, and intentionality. They’re not built overnight, but they’re the most valuable thing you can have in life.

(photo via galvmed)